ABOUT
My name is Gillian Shields, and I've struggled to know my worth. I've been lonely and afraid. I've been heartbroken. I've allowed myself to have much less than I needed & wanted. I've settled. I've pushed people away. I've been rejected. I've felt responsible for other people's choices and healing. I've been lost and lost hope. I’ve let every challenging relationship mean that I am at a disadvantage in life.
I studied psychology and human behavior for 8 years, earning a Bachelor of Science and Master of Science degree. I studied soul and spirituality principles for over a decade.
And I now live a life I love, my old self and life feeling like another lifetime ago.
After abandoning my dream to be a family and couples therapist because I didn't feel worthy, I built a career in research and ethics. The background of my life was a mess and I struggled in several dysfunctional relationships across multiple areas of my life and with my own self worth. Things changed forever when I got sick of being afraid, angry, hurt, burnt out, and deeply unhappy. I dove into transformational and spiritual work and changed my life. Now I write books, teach, and mentor to help people do the same by merging the worlds of psychology and soul spirituality!
I know that you can turn around any perceived disadvantage, and any relationship ending or hurt into the greatest magic you’ve ever known. And you can do this with more ease, flow, and speed than you previously thought was possible.
When you work with the all of you - human and soul - instead of just parts of you, then you tap into a coherence for healing, renewal, and complete transformation, freeing you into having a life you have always wanted.
This is what I help you with.
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Fun Facts About Me
Lover of: Red Lipstick & Beautiful Spaces
Nature Lover but the ‘glam’ kind
It takes me a while to: fully wake up in the morning
I always have time for: A nap and rest
The person I spend the most time with: Me
Favorite Season: Fall
I’d rather: go for a walk in a forest than lay on a beach
Red Wine over White Wine
Favorite cocktail: Amoretto or Whiskey Sour
I’m the oldest of my siblings
Favorite Comfort Foods: BBQ hamburgers, Pasta, Chocolate Cake
Go-to Coffee: Almond Milk Latte
When I want to veg out and feel good: I watch a Disney movie or rom-com
I’m not a fan of: Cats, but the neighborhood ones always hang out in my yard.
Something I do almost every day: Write, meditate/pray
I live in: Canada
Favorite Country so far: Scotland (and I got married there in a castle).
What I’ve worked most on that I’m most proud of: Loving myself; Letting go of feeling responsible for other people’s lives and choices; Unapologetic boundaries; Courage to change paths and live life in ways that feel best and most healing to me.
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I love learning about and teaching personal transformation on: growth-purpose relationships.
WTF is a growth-purpose relationship?
An experience with another person that to the human self, continually feels like a challenge, an imbalanced exchange, or disadvantage, but to the soul, is a powerful and purposeful encounter to evolve and create the highest-fulfilled life. These relationships often occur with family, friends, romantic partners, or other people who feel significant to your life experience. The soul-purpose of them is often outside the immediate awareness of the human self.
We all have growth-purpose relationships - they are a powerful tool our soul uses to awaken and come to know itself.
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MY CREDENTIALS
Degrees - Master of Science, Health Psychology & Brain Behavior (M.Sc.); Honors Bachelor of Science, Psychology & Close Relationships (B.Sc.)
Self-Directed Education - Over a decade of study and application of Soul & Spiritual principles and transformational modalities
Here’s how I can guide you:
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